Hey, my name is Eli Finer. I’m the founder of Wuju, and I’m going to teach you how you can get unstuck every time you lose motivation — without resorting to self-discipline.
We all intuitively know that self-discipline is a limited resource, and if you use some to resist another beer, you won’t be able to resist the cake. This well-researched phenomenon is called Ego Depletion, and it’s the main reason you can’t stop procrastinating, start eating healthy food, or build a successful business, let alone try to do all three all at the same time.
So what’s the secret to regaining motivation every time you lose it? And, more importantly, what would you be able to do if you could get back on track? You’re probably struggling with something you wish you were motivated to do right now. I know how that feels, when you’re overwhelmed with self-doubt, and it seems like there’s no way out, no way to get unstuck.
Well, I’m here to tell you there is a way, and it has to do with emotions. Yes, I’m talking about those pesky things that take over our minds, cloud our judgment, get us into pointless arguments, and destroy our relationships — anger, fear, guilt, shame, and other, less obvious ones like apathy and resistance. Those sneaky emotions often go undetected; they hide in the recesses of our minds and send out little tendrils with thoughts that seem true but actually aren’t.
Imagine the following scenario. You’ve recently been on a roll. Your nascent business is picking up, you’ve made a few sales, and you’re feeling good about yourself. You have another promising call today, and you’re confident that you’re going to nail it. Then disaster strikes — they say NO. They are very polite about it; they ask you to get in touch with them later when you grow and tell you how they believe this could be an awesome product for others, but it still stings like hell. The next morning you feel sluggish. You don’t feel like working. Nothing seems exciting, and you tell yourself you’re only going to read through some news about the latest SpaceX launch and then get to work. The news leads to in-depth articles, which lead to videos, and suddenly four hours have gone by. You know a hell of a lot more than you need to about Elon Musk’s plans to colonize Mars, but you haven’t touched your work yet. On the kitchen table in front of you are the remnants of a full breakfast, two cups of coffee, a piece of pie, and a half-eaten bowl of cereal that you’ve been munching on without milk. You look at the clock that says one p.m. and think it might be time for a nap. You’d feel better and more energized after you sleep a little. Right?
Wrong! You’ve been hijacked by your emotions, which are now lying to you at full blast. If you’re not careful, you might spiral down for quite a while, potentially taking your business, relationships and self-esteem down the drain. I’ve had such lulls that carried on for weeks or months, and I lost a lot of time, money, and opportunities to do some good in the world because of them. I’ve even been diagnosed with clinical depression, and I took prescription meds for a while to climb out of a particularly harsh bout.
So what’s going on, and how can we stop this from happening in the first place? Our culture doesn’t recognize emotions as a primary driver of our thoughts and behavior because the most prominent people in our society aren’t very emotional in the first place. The people who climb to the top tend to be archetypical men, or women who behave like men, who can achieve anything they set their sights on directly, with little stumbling. The rest of us look up to them but can’t actually be like them. That’s why Nike’s slogan “Just do it” resonates with so many but works for so few. That’s why “Suck it up, Marine” sounds awesome in action flicks but isn’t actually effective on the battlefield. (Spending seven years in the Israeli military gives me a bit of perspective on this last one.) That’s why, despite the mounting evidence of the importance of emotional intelligence, vulnerability, and authenticity, things are changing very slowly.
Let’s recap. We’ve established that emotions often go unnoticed, that they can hijack our thinking, that they often cause procrastination and addiction, which in turn causes self-doubt, loss of motivation, and a downward spiral that we find it hard to get out of. We’ve also established that this goes unacknowledged because the world is run by rational (and maybe slightly psychopathic) people who do not experience strong emotions and therefore don’t need to deal with this phenomenon. And we find ourselves in this odd predicament where the best humanity has to offer — our compassion and empathy, our curiosity and creativity, our innate ability to help one another — are all locked behind the inability of sensitive people to get shit done.
Going back to our story, something profound happened when our protagonist got off that sales call. Rejection set in, took residence in the recesses of his mind, and started pulling on his strings. Rejection is not an emotion in and of itself but a combination of a few deeper feelings: anger, grief, and shame with a touch of envy usually thrown in. When it goes unrecognized, it starts generating thought patterns that reinforce it, starting with “It’s not working,” progressing to “It’s never going to work,” and often culminating in the all-powerful “I can’t do this.” The thoughts go unnoticed, as well, but they cause more emotions to creep in, with fear leading the pack. Now we’re in a real jam — our thoughts and emotions are bound in a tight, subconscious loop of epic proportions, which culminates in the mother of all life-sucking, unconscious emotions — apathy. Our body responds to major physical trauma with coma. In the same way, apathy — or as it is more often experienced, numbness and exhaustion — is what our minds do when they are overwhelmed, and it was what our protagonist was experiencing the next morning. Apathy is such an unpleasant experience that we’ll look for any distraction to take our mind off it, not even realizing we’re doing it. It’s the source of all manner of procrastination, addiction, and distraction and makes billions for the likes of YouTube, Reddit, and Netflix. Let’s give them a little pay-cut, shall we?
Lester Levenson created the The Sedona Method over 60 years go to deal with his severe health and mental issues. Lester’s student Hale Dwoskin developed it further and teaches it in online and live seminars to this day. Behind the very woo-woo sounding message of the method (“We are all unlimited beings, limited only by the concepts of limitation that we hold in our minds”) is an incredibly powerful technique that can help us unleash the compassionate power of sensitive people onto an unexpecting world.
At its core, the method has three steps:
- Find out what emotion is blocking you.
- Feel it fully.
- Let it go.
People who are deeply in tune with their emotions can do this naturally, without assistance. The rest of us need some help, especially since all three steps require a mode of intelligence that is outside our rational, linear thinking and that takes some time to develop.
Enter Wuju. Wuju is an app that will help you process your emotions as soon as they arise, so you never get stuck for longer than a few minutes. I’ve used Wuju to completely eliminate sugar from my diet, to reignite my stagnant relationship with my wife, and, in a bit of a self-referential twist, to offer Wuju to you. It can help you do anything you set your mind to.
So here’s the plan to become unstoppable:
- Schedule a FREE intro call with me. We’ll talk about what you’re stuck on and go through the Wuju experience so you can see for yourself how easy it is to get unblocked.
- Use Wuju whenever you realize you are blocked to get unblocked and back into action. No discipline, reminders, or habits are required, as you’ll feel the call to use Wuju naturally.
- There’s no step 3!
You’ve wasted enough time. It’s time to get out of your head and into the world. It’s time to tame your fear and doubt and tap into your courage and passion. It’s time to make a difference.
Schedule your FREE intro call TODAY.
I’ll be waiting.